Apr 27 2011

Another Life Lesson From Nixa

Yesterday I got a real-life lesson in the depth of my relationship with Nixa.  It had been raining all day, and the wood stairs outside the apartment were wet and very slick.  I was taking her outside when I got home from work.  The result was bad.  I ended up slipping and falling most of the way down the stairs.  A nice big long scrape on one arm, and multiple bruises that still hurt today.

Nixa, instead of taking off, came right back to me before I could say anything but a few choice curse words on my way down.  I had plenty of momentum and thus time on the way down for several to come out of my mouth. She stopped and turned around looking at me with ears mostly laid back and eyes wide.  It was immediately apparent she knew and understood what happened.  As she came up to me the only word I can use to describe her demeanor is worried.  She immediately started licking my face.  She’s very affectionate, so that for her isn’t unusual in and of itself.  However, the depth of her concern, the worried look, struck me.

Nixa and I have known each other for over 7 years.  It finally hit me today when I was having a conversation about what happened that she worries about me like I worry about her.  When she is sick, not feeling well, or hurt, I often don’t know what to do – in part because I don’t know what is wrong.  I feel awful because there is so little I can do for her, and I worry about her.  She is much the same with me.  She knew I was in pain, and was genuinely hurting for me.  She didn’t know what to do to make me feel better, so she did the only thing she knew – she loved me.

That is what a best friend does.


Aug 16 2010

The 7 Habits of Highly Successful Dog Owners

Cesar Milan writes about the “7 Habits of Highly Successful Dog Owners” – but he opens with a really interesting paragraph.

Take a close look at the behavior of any successful pack leader, and you can’t help seeing it mirrored in the behavior of successful people from all walks of life. It’s probably not a coincidence then that as I’ve practiced what I’ve preached to dog owners over the years, I’ve seen improvements in other areas of my life, too. Here are the pack-leading tactics that have helped me most— not just with my dogs but as a husband, a father, and a man. (emphasis mine)

That last part – especially the last three words “…and a man” – struck me.  It shouldn’t have, but quality male role models who understand that they have a unique role to fill in the lives of their families and communities is rare.  At least, this kind of expression of recognizing that manhood has a value in society is rare.  It shouldn’t be.

The 7 Habits of Highly Successful Dog Owners


Aug 12 2010

Looking Back on 7 Years of Man’s Best Friend (part 1)

Nixa turned 7 this past weekend.  It has been a great 7 years.  We’ve moved 4 times, including a 6 month stint in South Florida, where she spent much of her time herding anything that moved – cats, foxes, raccoons, giant lizards, a turtle (had to give her props for perseverance), and even a kid who was being obnoxious.  We’ve been to the vet more times than I can count, including a few trips to for emergency care in the middle of the night.  We took puppy classes at the vet’s office we still go it, and I think it made a big difference not only in terms of starting her off right with basic obedience and socialization, but being comfortable with the vet’s office itself.  She loves going there, even if we’re just going over to pick up food or say hi to the staff.  Occasionally someone will come out and greet her that I don’t even recognize.  She has made a great, positive impression on the people she’s come in contact with.

She is a rescue dog.  A local pet store hosted one of the county humane societies adoption events, and I was looking to get a dog.  I knew I didn’t want to buy one from a store, so adopting sounded like a good option.  She was in a pen with about 5 or 6 other puppies from the same litter.  All of the dogs except her were climbing over each other, playing and wrestling in a multi-colored furball.  Nixa was off by herself on the other side of the pen, looking kind of bored, and even at only 6 weeks old, just the tiniest bit irritated with the commotion.  I knew she was my dog, and that we were going to get along great.

She turned out to be an incredibly loyal and easy to train puppy.  Some dogs really couldn’t care less, and will take any attention they can get.  Nixa craves positive attention, and really takes negative attention personally.  She tends to pick things up quickly, even things I don’t realize she’s learning.

In 7 years, I’ve only ever seen her get angry 3 times.  Once at a puppy who wandered in to the exam room while we were waiting during one of the late night dog ER visits.  She was in rough shape that night.  She just growled at him, but it was enough.  The obnoxious kid who was harassing her was another time.  She was running around him in circles, barking – basically being a shepherd, but the barking+teeth meant she wasn’t fooling around.  The instant I called, she came right over to me.  Most recently it was a guy from the neighborhood who she didn’t know that walked up to the sliding glass door – and she didn’t know where I was (I happened to be just out of sight from inside the door).  Funny that I could absolutely and immediately hear the change in her bark from ‘warning’ to ‘I don’t know where dad is / I don’t know who you are / Don’t think about coming in my house’ – the neighbor didn’t hear it.  Cat people never do.

She knows when we play outside that she can’t leave toys in the yard so she almost always brings it back inside with her without being told, and always knows what it means when reminded to go bring it back inside.  She usually greets me at the door when I get home from work with one of them.  If not, I’ll sometimes find that she has piled the toys in one place.

Over the years, she has occasionally eaten ends off cables, napkins, and CDs.  One time she even ate my homework. No really.  She’s smart though.  I once had two doughnut holes on the coffee table.  I came around the corner to find her enjoying one of them.  I took it away from her, told her ‘no’ and went to throw it away.  When I came back, the other one was totally gone.  She learned her lesson – eat it faster.

Next: water, agility classes, and a shady character.


Jan 23 2008

My Dog Ate My Homework … No, really

Taking an aviation survey class this quarter. Our first assignment involved two different paper airplanes. It sounds really cliche, but my dog ate my homework. The scraps are what is left of my delta wing plane. Fortunately I already ran my flight tests, wrote and turned in the paper before she got to it…